The “Sweet Spot”: The Intersection of Happiness and Success.

Most of us have no idea what we want, many of us don’t even know what we don’t want.

 

We then wonder why we are not happy; we then wonder why we are unfulfilled; we then wonder why we can’t get to where we want to go.

 

How can we honestly expect to achieve our goals and create our dreams if we haven’t defined our destination?

 

We wouldn’t do this in business, we wouldn’t do this with a personal trainer, it would be a waste of time and maybe even get someone fired.

 

But, for some reason, when it comes to our happiness and dreams, we think the rules are different.

 

They are not.

 

The same rules that apply to success in business, in our health and in our lives apply to working with ourselves; Define the objective, understand the present, create a plan to succeed and execute. *If need be, change the objective, the plan or the approach.

 

In order to succeed (at anything) we must define what success looks like.

 

To not do so is foolish, as we may have already achieved our desire if we had only taken a moment to define it. How sad would it be to actually be happy, but have never realized it because you never defined what it looked or felt like?

 

Most people just think they are unhappy. Happiness and success our mental constructs, build them how you choose appropriate in the present moment.

 

Avoidance

 

Why do we avoid defining our dreams and making them clear? Because, we don’t really want to achieve them.

 

It’s the classic tale of the “under-achiever” who “could” have done better, but they “knew” they wouldn’t, so never really tried. We all do it, it’s just part of being human.

 

But we do not have to continue operating as so.

 

What are we really avoiding is the question? Success, failure, what others think, happiness, worthiness and love are some of the deeper experiences we avoid. Achieving them means are lives will be different.

 

Achieving them means we actually have control over our realities, that’s a scary statement for some of you. And that’s ok.

 

But you do not have to continue operating as so.

 

There’s a formula to finding happiness and success, and it starts with self-worth.

 

Self-worth

 

You’re perfect. You’re good enough. You’re exactly where you are supposed to be.

 

You may not believe this (yet), but you will, if you choose to start believing it. It’s really that simple. Start now, like right now.

 

Most of us aren’t willing to define our desires and even less of us go after them because we don’t believe we are worthy. We don’t believe we are good enough. There’s no denying this.

 

If someone believes they deserve something or are good enough to do something, they go for it. This doesn’t mean they do so without fear, but nonetheless, they do it.

 

If someone doesn’t believe they deserve something or aren’t good enough to do something, they tend to not go for it.

 

Instead, they tend to make excuses, avoid action or play the victim. Run whatever desire you have that you haven’t achieved yet though your mind and ask yourself why you haven’t done it yet.

 

You found one of the above mentioned “reasons” didn’t you?

 

All good, unless you’re tired of not having what you want. All good, unless the payoff from not getting what you want is no longer working for you.

 

If you don’t have what you want, there is a reason. It’s most likely linked to self-worth or better said, a lack thereof.

 

If you are ready to start creating happiness and success, you need to start to believe you deserve it. You need to start to truly embrace the fact that you are good enough, that you are worthy.

 

If you’re reading this and don’t believe you are good enough exactly as you are in this moment, please stop reading and do the following;

 

30 Day Practice

 

Do this for 30-days straight. If you miss a day, go back to day 1 and start again. Continue this practice until you practice for 30-days in a row. You’re worth it.

 

One of the highest habits that we can develop is self-love, as it leads us directly to self-worth. As we hone this habit, all former habits surrender their service because love outperforms all.

 

Start by viewing self-love as your top job and top priority. When you love yourself, then you will be happy, happy from within.

 

Happiness from within comes from loving who you are. Loving who you are comes from believing you are worthy.

 

To practice self-love, incorporate the mantra below into your daily routine. Close your eyes, connect with your heart and repeat the mantra. Experience it, embrace it and embody it.

“I love myself.”

Do this for 5-minutes every day before you leave your house. Feel it, believe it.

 

Once you’ve completed this practice for 30-days in a row, move on to the next steps in creating happiness and success.

 

The “Sweet Spot”

 

Now that you feel “good enough” or at the very least are starting to believe this, you’re ready to create one of the secret keys to the intersection of happiness and success: The “Sweet Spot”

 

This secret tool is the center point of three converging roads: Defining your happiness and success starts now.

 

  • What you like to do,
  • What you are good at.
  • What you can make money doing.

 

We spend so much time at work away from doing the things that we truly love, and it is wearing on us as a society. The WHO just recently declared “Burn-out” to be a medical condition. If this isn’t proof that we’re not happy and finding success, then we don’t know what is.

 

If you want to set yourself up for happiness and success, you better be doing what you love more often than not. Spending countless hours looking at the clock and waiting for the weekend to come around isn’t going to get the job done.

 

We know, we’ve been there too.

 

What do you like to do?

 

Make a list of everything you like to do and everything that brings you joy and happiness. They may be big, they may be small, it doesn’t matter. Just get your thoughts down on a piece of paper and start to see the things that “fill you up”.

 

These do not need to be work related, but you may find they are as well. Start big and broad.

 

What are you good at?

 

Make a list of everything you are good at and everything that makes you feel accomplished. Again, start big and wide, Look for themes or patterns. Look and the look some more.

 

What do you notice? What do you see?

 

What can you get paid to do?

What are all the ways and jobs you can currently do to make money? Make a list of all the different options and ways you can think of. Get really big on this one, the bigger and more creative the better.

Again, look for patterns and themes. Look for jobs and ways of making money that are complimentary and synergistic.

Put it all together

 Now that you have the 4-variables to creating happiness and success; self-worth, knowing what you are good at, knowing what you like to do and knowing how you can make money, what is your end result?

What is your unique intersection or “Sweet spot”? It will be uniquely yours, one of a kind.

Now, this may not be what you expected; it may not even be a job title. What you might find is that you need to go and create this title or role, or that you already have access to your “sweet spot” in your current role.

Let’s say for example that you like listening to people, you are good at giving advice, and you are currently managing 10 employees.

Then according to the “sweet-spot” you’re already there. Now that you’ve defined it and can see it, work can be so much better because it now has purpose and depth. Start showing up to work with your intersection in mind.

Let is guide your interactions and way of being. You will find more happiness, success and joy as a result. It will be a win/win for everyone involved.

 

You’ll find that the role itself is rather insignificant once you know what you’re good at and what you like to do. You can plug most of this into any “roll”.

 

Start to do more of what you like and more of what you are good at more often than not. Burnout comes from not doing the things you love and from feeling a lack of purpose and connection to one’s work or path.

 

Finding the “Sweet spot” will significantly help prevent burnout and it will make you want to jump out of bed in the morning rather than feeling like you need to be dragged out.

 

If you are having a hard time defining your intersection or having a hard time believing you are worthy, we are here for you.

 

Our job is to help you get to where you want to be faster and we’re here to help when you are ready.

 

Dedicated to your growth,

Nick + Justin

 

P.S.

 

When you are ready, book a 15-minute “Discovery Session” HERE, let’s find your “Sweet spot” and start creating it today.

Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

3 Simple Steps to Find Your “Sweet Spot” and Create Success in Your Life and Career.

The teachings I throw down are meant to be tried, tested and then used, but only if they work.

The same goes for all spiritual teachings of the world; I’ve notice however, that we tend to not embody them, rather we tend to just quote them or stick them up on our social media accounts.

I always want to know as a student myself and always want all students to strive to understand how lessons or teachings apply to our daily lives. Everyone, especially in cities like San Francisco, L.A. or New York with fast paces, big lights and stressors galore need tools. Big tools.

Part of what I’m here to do and part of my expertise is to distill metaphysical teachings and put them into layman’s terms. This got me thinking, and got me excited to share a teaching I recently found in a business book.

In the book “The Real-Life MBA”, by Jack Welch, the author outlines what he calls the “Area of Destiny”. This is a cutting edge philosophy, where Welch delivers a framework to discover and create exactly what you want in your life and career.

Welch, challenges the reader to line their life up in a way the creates an intersection of what they are good at and what they like to do.

This is profound . This business man is offering sage advice.

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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

My American Dream: A Full-Circle Story of Realizing Success Without Stress, Part III

The person who I am today is a sum of my successes and failures. The past 10 years of my career have catapulted me to success, have plunged me into failure, and have lifted me to success once again. This is Part III of my story of training myself to enjoy my American dream and to evolve my perspective. Read Part I and Part II.


My American Fear

I was teaching, coaching and training full time. The results were mind-boggling.

As I worked with clients on polishing their interiors, their exteriors began to shine too. They looked, talked and acted differently. Their pace of life and energy shifted. Their lives transformed.

Every metamorphosis that I witnessed astounded me: Losing 20 to 30 pounds. Developing clearer and brighter skin. Attaining raises and promotions. Establishing businesses. Moving abroad. Getting engaged. Feeling calm for the first time.

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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

My American Dream: A Full-Circle Story of Realizing Success Without Stress, Part II

The person who I am today is a sum of my successes and failures. The past 10 years of my career have catapulted me to success, have plunged me into failure, and have lifted me to success once again. This is Part II of my story of expanding my relationship with yoga to expand the American dream and to expand my life. Read Part I and Part III.


From Failure to Freedom

My second superpower is my intuition. I do not analyze before I act. I just get a feeling – and go for it.

Within six months to a year of taking my first yoga class, I knew that I wanted to be a yoga teacher.

My practice had evolved from excruciating to emancipating. I remember forming triangle pose one class and thinking: “Huh. This is no longer miserable.” I developed flexibility, strength and body awareness. As I witnessed how quickly and deeply yoga was transforming me, I wanted to share it with others.
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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

My American Dream: A Full-Circle Story of Realizing Success Without Stress, Part I

The person who I am today is a sum of my accomplishments and mistakes. The past 10 years of my career have catapulted me to success, have plunged me into failure, and have lifted me to success once again. This is the first post in a three-part series that shares my story of redefining my relationship to stress using yogic principles to redefine the American dream and to redefine my life. Read Part II and Part III.


From “Success” to Stress

In early 2006, I found myself working my way up the corporate ladder. The only things on my mind were money and status. I had graduated from a top business school and was primed to become rich and powerful. I was also well on my way to becoming an asshole.

I have always known that I was born to be a leader. By my early 20s, I also had the car, the beach apartment, the clothes and the attitude to prove it. I felt as if I were on the path to achieving everything I had ever wanted.

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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

Audaciously S.M.A.R.T. Goals

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again; thoughts become things. I’ve been diving into a classic book entitled “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill, who takes this even further when he says: “Money is the transmutation of desire into it’s tangible equivalent.” What he’s saying is that whatever you desire must first be conceived in the intangible world of thought before it can be brought into the physical world of form. The act of writing down your thoughts brings this process one step closer to reality as it directly transfers your desires into something you can see, touch and feel.
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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

5 Big Takeaways From 2015

2015 was a big, powerful year for myself and as a result for many of my students and private clients alike. I’m not saying that to brag but to highlight the main theme of “The Big Yogi”;
Inspire, Move and Transform. My perspective and teachings revolve around the principal of filling yourself up first in order to be of greater value and service to the community and the world. The power to make change starts with the ability to inspire yourself to move towards transformation. You have got to get clear on who you want to be and how you want your life to be, then you can take this energy and purpose outward and share it. This blog represents my takeaways and personal experience with these principals and teachings over the past year and is in the first person for this reason. I offer myself as a tool for you to reflect on your own big takeaways from 2015.
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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

Four Big Nutrition Rules

At the end of 2013, I planned to gain 20 pounds over a three-month span; I would attempt to do so by drinking calories and adding grains and dairy back into my diet. My point was to show how much diet regulates our mental health and physical appearance.  I managed to gain 10 pounds in under one month before throwing in the towel. I started to break out in pimples, my energy levels were shot, I was irritable as hell and I generally just felt like crap. The picture below shows the results  of switching back to my regular diet of lean proteins, veggies and healthy fats with no dairy or grains, A.K.A.“The Paleo Diet”.  In three short months (without changing my workout routine or doing cardio) I dropped back down to my previous physique and feel better than ever. The way I did it was actually quite simple and only involved a few nutritional guidelines.  Here they are:

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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

Yoga for Strength: Improve Your Yoga Practice Through Weight-Lifting

To create your ultimate body and unlock your yoga practice, it’s time to start lifting weights. When it comes to yoga for strength, yoga and weight lifting are a match made in heaven. They are the ultimate compliments for improved improve body composition, increased strength and flexibility and decreased pain.

I have been lifting weights since I was a teen. But, as I got more into yoga, I began to move away from weight training. I simply couldn’t figure out a way to combine the two that made sense. A few years ago however, I began to put the puzzle together.

What I eventually formulated is the topic of today’s blog: how to combine yoga and weight training for maximum results and strength.
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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

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“Thoughts become things.” It’s a cheesy line from The Secret, but it’s a dead accurate statement. Notice everything around you, notice everything that has been created. From a huge skyscraper to the electronic device you are reading this on, It was all once just a pipe dream. Everything that’s been created started as a thought, an idea, an intention. It took the foresight, dream and effort of someone to create that which had never been created before. This is how thoughts become things, this represents the power of intention.
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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.