The “Sweet Spot”: The Intersection of Happiness and Success.

Most of us have no idea what we want, many of us don’t even know what we don’t want.

 

We then wonder why we are not happy; we then wonder why we are unfulfilled; we then wonder why we can’t get to where we want to go.

 

How can we honestly expect to achieve our goals and create our dreams if we haven’t defined our destination?

 

We wouldn’t do this in business, we wouldn’t do this with a personal trainer, it would be a waste of time and maybe even get someone fired.

 

But, for some reason, when it comes to our happiness and dreams, we think the rules are different.

 

They are not.

 

The same rules that apply to success in business, in our health and in our lives apply to working with ourselves; Define the objective, understand the present, create a plan to succeed and execute. *If need be, change the objective, the plan or the approach.

 

In order to succeed (at anything) we must define what success looks like.

 

To not do so is foolish, as we may have already achieved our desire if we had only taken a moment to define it. How sad would it be to actually be happy, but have never realized it because you never defined what it looked or felt like?

 

Most people just think they are unhappy. Happiness and success our mental constructs, build them how you choose appropriate in the present moment.

 

Avoidance

 

Why do we avoid defining our dreams and making them clear? Because, we don’t really want to achieve them.

 

It’s the classic tale of the “under-achiever” who “could” have done better, but they “knew” they wouldn’t, so never really tried. We all do it, it’s just part of being human.

 

But we do not have to continue operating as so.

 

What are we really avoiding is the question? Success, failure, what others think, happiness, worthiness and love are some of the deeper experiences we avoid. Achieving them means are lives will be different.

 

Achieving them means we actually have control over our realities, that’s a scary statement for some of you. And that’s ok.

 

But you do not have to continue operating as so.

 

There’s a formula to finding happiness and success, and it starts with self-worth.

 

Self-worth

 

You’re perfect. You’re good enough. You’re exactly where you are supposed to be.

 

You may not believe this (yet), but you will, if you choose to start believing it. It’s really that simple. Start now, like right now.

 

Most of us aren’t willing to define our desires and even less of us go after them because we don’t believe we are worthy. We don’t believe we are good enough. There’s no denying this.

 

If someone believes they deserve something or are good enough to do something, they go for it. This doesn’t mean they do so without fear, but nonetheless, they do it.

 

If someone doesn’t believe they deserve something or aren’t good enough to do something, they tend to not go for it.

 

Instead, they tend to make excuses, avoid action or play the victim. Run whatever desire you have that you haven’t achieved yet though your mind and ask yourself why you haven’t done it yet.

 

You found one of the above mentioned “reasons” didn’t you?

 

All good, unless you’re tired of not having what you want. All good, unless the payoff from not getting what you want is no longer working for you.

 

If you don’t have what you want, there is a reason. It’s most likely linked to self-worth or better said, a lack thereof.

 

If you are ready to start creating happiness and success, you need to start to believe you deserve it. You need to start to truly embrace the fact that you are good enough, that you are worthy.

 

If you’re reading this and don’t believe you are good enough exactly as you are in this moment, please stop reading and do the following;

 

30 Day Practice

 

Do this for 30-days straight. If you miss a day, go back to day 1 and start again. Continue this practice until you practice for 30-days in a row. You’re worth it.

 

One of the highest habits that we can develop is self-love, as it leads us directly to self-worth. As we hone this habit, all former habits surrender their service because love outperforms all.

 

Start by viewing self-love as your top job and top priority. When you love yourself, then you will be happy, happy from within.

 

Happiness from within comes from loving who you are. Loving who you are comes from believing you are worthy.

 

To practice self-love, incorporate the mantra below into your daily routine. Close your eyes, connect with your heart and repeat the mantra. Experience it, embrace it and embody it.

“I love myself.”

Do this for 5-minutes every day before you leave your house. Feel it, believe it.

 

Once you’ve completed this practice for 30-days in a row, move on to the next steps in creating happiness and success.

 

The “Sweet Spot”

 

Now that you feel “good enough” or at the very least are starting to believe this, you’re ready to create one of the secret keys to the intersection of happiness and success: The “Sweet Spot”

 

This secret tool is the center point of three converging roads: Defining your happiness and success starts now.

 

  • What you like to do,
  • What you are good at.
  • What you can make money doing.

 

We spend so much time at work away from doing the things that we truly love, and it is wearing on us as a society. The WHO just recently declared “Burn-out” to be a medical condition. If this isn’t proof that we’re not happy and finding success, then we don’t know what is.

 

If you want to set yourself up for happiness and success, you better be doing what you love more often than not. Spending countless hours looking at the clock and waiting for the weekend to come around isn’t going to get the job done.

 

We know, we’ve been there too.

 

What do you like to do?

 

Make a list of everything you like to do and everything that brings you joy and happiness. They may be big, they may be small, it doesn’t matter. Just get your thoughts down on a piece of paper and start to see the things that “fill you up”.

 

These do not need to be work related, but you may find they are as well. Start big and broad.

 

What are you good at?

 

Make a list of everything you are good at and everything that makes you feel accomplished. Again, start big and wide, Look for themes or patterns. Look and the look some more.

 

What do you notice? What do you see?

 

What can you get paid to do?

What are all the ways and jobs you can currently do to make money? Make a list of all the different options and ways you can think of. Get really big on this one, the bigger and more creative the better.

Again, look for patterns and themes. Look for jobs and ways of making money that are complimentary and synergistic.

Put it all together

 Now that you have the 4-variables to creating happiness and success; self-worth, knowing what you are good at, knowing what you like to do and knowing how you can make money, what is your end result?

What is your unique intersection or “Sweet spot”? It will be uniquely yours, one of a kind.

Now, this may not be what you expected; it may not even be a job title. What you might find is that you need to go and create this title or role, or that you already have access to your “sweet spot” in your current role.

Let’s say for example that you like listening to people, you are good at giving advice, and you are currently managing 10 employees.

Then according to the “sweet-spot” you’re already there. Now that you’ve defined it and can see it, work can be so much better because it now has purpose and depth. Start showing up to work with your intersection in mind.

Let is guide your interactions and way of being. You will find more happiness, success and joy as a result. It will be a win/win for everyone involved.

 

You’ll find that the role itself is rather insignificant once you know what you’re good at and what you like to do. You can plug most of this into any “roll”.

 

Start to do more of what you like and more of what you are good at more often than not. Burnout comes from not doing the things you love and from feeling a lack of purpose and connection to one’s work or path.

 

Finding the “Sweet spot” will significantly help prevent burnout and it will make you want to jump out of bed in the morning rather than feeling like you need to be dragged out.

 

If you are having a hard time defining your intersection or having a hard time believing you are worthy, we are here for you.

 

Our job is to help you get to where you want to be faster and we’re here to help when you are ready.

 

Dedicated to your growth,

Nick + Justin

 

P.S.

 

When you are ready, book a 15-minute “Discovery Session” HERE, let’s find your “Sweet spot” and start creating it today.

Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

Ground Your Yoga Practice To Grow

This month’s blogs and teachings encourage building strong and stable foundations, whether in yoga, exercise, nutrition or even goal-setting. These facets of wellness do not need to be separate. To build a strong body and mind through any of these practices, you must have a solid base.

I see many yoga students, exercise enthusiasts and people in general wanting to rush to the end. They want to achieve advanced poses, lift heavy weights or overhaul their diets before they have mastered the foundations. Not only is rushing to the end unsustainable, but it also can be dangerous.

This week, we will explore the foundations of building a strong yoga practice. In the following weeks, we will examine the foundations of exercise and nutrition.

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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

How to Create Your Life’s Dreams: 3 Tips to Getting it Done.

Last week marked my completion of another 50 hour block of advanced yoga training; which I have been taking part in for the past year. I spent the week really getting to know my mind, including all of its little tricks and all the ways it tries to hide things from me. It was also an opportunity to evaluate the areas of my life that are working and uncover the aspects that aren’t.  Overall, the experience has created a desire to share some of my takeaways from the week, not only to put down on paper what I think I have learned, but also to inspire others to become happier and healthier through the process.

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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

Five Afflictions Destroying Your Happiness

Are you happy? Are you truly happy at the deepest level of your being? Sure, on a superficial level, happiness is relatively easy to achieve or at least to project outwardly, but on the inside it’s a whole different story.

Outward happiness can be achieved through a smile, purchasing a new possession, even a new relationship. What they all have one thing in common however, is that they are temporary. When I get what I want I’m happy. When I avoid what I don’t want I’m happy. When I’m in love I’m happy. But what happens when life doesn’t go how I want it to? I feel angst, I feel loss, I feel less than, I feel sadness. Today, I’ll talk about the “Kleshas” of the “five afflictions” responsible for causing suffering and ultimately, unhappiness.Read more

Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

How to Manage Stress: Drop Your Expectations to The Floor

How to manage stress? Drop your expectations and assumptions to the floor, period

Expectations and assumptions are natural functions of the human mind and can exist at a deep and  unconscious level. They prepare and inform us how to act and can protect us from emotional pain, they serve a function. Expectations and assumptions however, are core contributors to our unhappiness and prevent us from living in the present moment.

Think back to a minute ago before you started reading this blog; when you read the title, what did you expect to find, what did you assume it would be about? That answer is different for all of us, so take a moment and see if you can recall your initial thoughts that came to mind.

Maybe you thought to yourself “I expect this to be good or I expect this to be bad.” Or maybe you assumed that this blog would only be related to yoga and not applicable if you don’t have a yoga practice.  Are any of these thoughts right or wrong? I do not know the answer, but neither do any of us until we actually experience this article, event or moment first hand.

I can hear you saying already “But it’s good to have expectations about things, we should expect things to be good and avoid things we expect to be bad.”

Well, I have some advice for you, drop your expectations.

Throw them out the damn window.

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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

What is Meditation and Why The Hell Should I Do It?

What is meditation? It an old esoteric practice reserved for monks chanting in caves, atop a mountain- it’s weird, it’s something for hippies and is practiced for hours on end, right?

Well, not exactly, at least not anymore.  Meditation is actually quite normal, and has been practiced by the great leaders of the world; Jesus, Buddha, Ghandi and Russell Wilson (the Super-Bowl winning quarterback for the Seattle Seahawks).

I’m kidding about throwing Wilson into the mix with these others, but did so for a reason; meditation has become mainstream. It is now being practiced by yogis, home-makers and professional athletes alike. The reasons for one’s own practice may differ; from the search for enlightenment, to managing stress, to improved athletic/professional performance.

So what do these very different motivators all have in common? The quieting of the mind and the search for a clearer, sharper reality. If you’ve never meditated before, the concept of sitting still can be quite scary, so let’s get to the topics at hand and learn what mediation is and why the hell to do it.

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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.

Stress Management: The Choice Is Yours.

More so than ever, many of us are experiencing constant stress. It’s a hot topic these days, as the research has shown that stress is literally killing us. Students are constantly coming to me asking for tips, techniques and ways to be unstressed, “just like myself.”

Firstly, the assumption that yoga teachers or experienced meditators don’t experience stress could not be farther from the truth.

I personally experience stress daily- from deadlines, to getting upset in traffic, to disagreeing with my roommate (I originally came to yoga to help with the stress I was experiencing from corporate sales). The main difference between a student and a teacher is that the teacher has learned how to manage stress and learned to notice when they are experiencing stress. It’s not like the tension isn’t there, it’s just seen and then regulated appropriately- and don’t forget, it’s is the teacher’s job to model how to be on the outside in order to help others create calmness on the inside. So do your best and try to not to compare yourself to how someone else “appears” to be on the outside. Let’s spend some time looking at what stress is, what causes it and how to help manage it.

 

Remember, learning to manage stress is a process which takes mental and physical training, and won’t “just happen.”

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Nick Palladino-King teaches students and clients how to reduce stress, to increase happiness and to elevate health through yoga, wellness coaching and strength training.